Living in the US for a year in 2018 was a life-changing experience for me. I made my long time dream come true to work
I met Flogo for the first time in Japan, and I was inspired by the concept of Flogo. I believe now that it is not too
much to say that Flogo led me to the US and to TIBCO.
In the US, I met lots of smart and good-minded friends from all over the world, and had lots great conversations with
them. I also experienced many things that I have never imagined before. I found lots of differences in people,
environment, culture, value and so on. Although, I need some more time to digest all of those, here are my thoughts:
Although there was over 5,000 miles between Mountain View and Tokyo where my kids lived, I had a lot of conversations
through the video chat with them thanks to the technology, and I could see that my 11-year old girl especially was
growing much faster than I expected and turning into a woman. I found out that she was intelligent enough to grasp and
understand things and had an ability to think and make decisions by herself. Throughout the conversations and
observation, I realized that my role on her should change from teaching to coaching (provide guidance than telling her
what to do). I tried to listen her, accepted her and led her towards her happiness. In this process, I understood the
true meaning of conversation. It is not an exchange of information at a superficial level, but sharing ideas and
caring at a deeper level.
It is amazing that different people think in different ways. I learned the importance of not pretending to
understanding each other, but listen to others and talk in your own words. I think one of the strengths of Japanese
people is "feel" each other. If we can acquire the ability to "have real conversations", it should expand our world
and create more comfortable relationships and environments.
In a conversation with a respected friend of mine, he told me that living in the same way as majority (he said
"median" in math way) is the easiest way and to living as minority needs extra effort to achieve even simple things.
It was mind-blowing as I realized that's the cause of my difficult days! I couldn't find a job for a long time
regardless of my excellent grades in the collage for being a female, and I was the first female engineer who came back
to a career after raising a baby in my company. I am the only female employee in my company who went abroad for work
leaving my own kids in home country! He added one more point, "it's very difficult, but there will be a way after
someone walked the path for the first time", and it was also mind-blowing. In my company, most of female employees
nowadays keep the job after having kids. It is not only because of me, but I want to keep showing options for working
mothers by challenging the existing systems. The good thing is though, things are only going to be better.
Luckily, I was assigned to the heart of diversity, California. I met many people from all over the world. Nobody was
the same and everybody was interesting. I knew the meaning of diversity, but I didn't feel it until I was there.
Nobody is perfect but everybody has different strength. By gathering them, I believe that it will create synergy and
the organization will perform better. In addition, diverse environment generates competition because minority makes
greater effort to be successful. It makes people stronger and will also strengthen the organization. I felt that is
why diversity is important.
When I was leaving the US, my respected friend gave me a farewell wishes. "Life is a journey. I'm happy that you are
a part of my journey." Although I am not good at saying goodbye as it is too sad, those words gave me a different
perspective in meeting and separating, starting and ending. Life is indeed a journey. I'm happy that you all are a
part of my journey. Thank you Flogo for having led me to the US!